Tao and Personal Effectiveness
Articles by Tekson Teo
In my articles, I talk about how Tao can help you to improve your personal effectiveness. These are some of the articles:
There is a simple technique that you can use to get the priority right. It is simple, handy, and very effective.
Setting Priority with Tao
In order to achieve more, get the priority right. Otherwise, we could end up mindlessly busy – yet see not result.How to get the priority right?
There is a simple Dao technique that you can use. It is simple, handy, and very effective.
It has to do with the concepts of being and nonbeing. Never mind if you do not understand what they mean. Just follow the example below.
Look at a coffee cup.
It has a body and a handle. It can be seen and touched. The cup is being.
Is the being the reason for the cup's existence?
From the Dao’s perspective, it is not.
Although it is the being – the physical body -- of the cup that catches our attention, it is the nonbeing of the cup that makes it useful. In this case, the nonbeing is in the space within the body of the cup. We cannot see or touch the space, so it is a nonbeing. But it is the reason for the cup's existence. Without the space, the drink will have nowhere to reside in. The cup will become useless and lose the centre of its life.
In life, everything we own or do has its being and associated nonbeings.
We often ascribe value to the beings, because it can be seen or touched. When you go to a shop to buy a cup, you are charged for the physical cup, not the space.
The problem is that being needs not be the centre of life, and seeing it as your priority would not be right.
We want to have big houses. We want to have beautiful cars. We want to have impressive position. These are beings. They are important, but not necessarily the most important. If we base our priority on only the beings, we may lose the center of our life.
Use the Tao technique to complement your efforts when deciding on priority.
First, find out what the being it is.
Then, ask yourself, “What are the nonbeings associated with it?”
Very often, it is in the nonbeings where your priority lies.
Money is a being. Many of us work for money. What are the nonbeings associated with money? The answers vary from person to person, but it could include respect, fulfillment and peace of mind. The being is important, but the nonbeings could well be your priority.
When you are doing a sales presentation, the presentation is a being. What are the associated nonbeings? It could be rapport building with a client, confidence building in a customer, or persuasion that leads to the final sales. The presentation is important, but the priority lies somewhere else. If work only on the being, i.e., the presentation; and overlook the nonbeings; you may end up achieving no results even when you work very hard.
Think about being and nonbeing in everything you do. Very soon you will become adept at identifying priorities. This will help you to focus on the right priority in everything you do.
The accumulated effects can be stupefying!
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